Grown Love Hits Different: What We Need Now vs. Then

Podcast: Spoken Love | Episode 1

Love in the 90s had its own rhythm. It was handwritten notes slipped into lockers, payphone calls that stretched past curfew, and sneakers sliding across the floor during a slow dance that didn’t even need music. It was simple, unpolished, and yet so unforgettable. If you know me you know that Love and Basketball is my all-time favorite movie. It captures the nostalgia of young black love at its purest.

The poem that kicks off this episode captures it best:

Woke up with that dream still stuck in my mind,
Back in them days when love was soft and unrefined…

It’s a rewind to a time when love was light, pure, and sometimes all we needed was presence. But as we’ve grown, so has love. What once was enough, no longer sustains us.

Then vs. Now

What We Needed Then

• Presence- just showing up was everything.

• Attention- small gestures like a phone call or a note meant the world.

• Connection without expectation- love felt lighter because life was simpler.

What We Need Now

• Emotional maturity- conversations that go deeper than “What’s up?”

• Accountability- consistency, honesty, and responsibility in love.

• Deeper intimacy- alignment in values, purpose, and vision for the future.

Why Grown Love Hits Different

Grown love isn’t just about butterflies, it’s about building foundations that last once the butterflies' fade. It asks us to communicate better, to heal old wounds, and to create connections rooted in trust and purpose.

That’s the heart of this episode and the heartbeat of this season. From the echoes of teenage crushes to the accountability of grown connections, Spoken Love speaks the truths of love out loud messy, poetic, and real.

Because love may not look like it did back then, but when it’s grown, it just hits different.

Episode Highlights

• The nostalgia of 90s love and why it still lingers.

• How our standards evolve as we mature.

• The shift from chemistry to accountability in relationships.

• Why grown love requires emotional presence, not just physical.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. Why does grown love “hit different”?

Grown love hits different because it’s rooted in emotional maturity, accountability, and shared purpose. Unlike young love, which thrives on butterflies and excitement, grown love focuses on building a sustainable foundation that lasts beyond initial attraction.

2. How do relationship needs change over time?

In younger years, love often centers on presence, attention, and chemistry. As we mature, our needs shift toward communication, alignment in values, and deeper emotional intimacy. This evolution is a natural part of growing as individuals and partners.

3. What lessons can we learn from young love?

Young love teaches us the power of vulnerability, the excitement of discovery, and the beauty of simplicity. While it may not always last, those experiences shape how we approach grown love with more clarity and intention.

4. How can couples keep love strong as they get older?

Couples can strengthen their bond by practicing consistent communication, holding each other accountable, and nurturing emotional connection. Prioritizing quality time, shared goals, and forgiveness keeps grown love vibrant and lasting.

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